Order Our Damn Save The Dates

Let me preface this post with letting you all in on a big secret…I am a MEGA control freak. I may also have planning OCD. Don’t know what that is, well let me enlighten you. If I have not planned/completed a task right when it is given to me I freak out.   

Knowing all this, guess what my fiancé is? NOT a planner. He floats gently in the breeze not letting anything stress him out. He doesn’t get overwhelmed if he is running a little behind and he certainly doesn’t self combust if a task isn’t completed right away. So guess who is planning the majority of our wedding? You guessed it folks, me.

I have booked the venue, photography/videography, DJ, and am very close to finalizing catering after 502830803 emails. I’ve researched, called, texted, emailed, and just about every form of communication possible (besides carrier pigeon) to a bunch of different people to find the best prices/deals without compromising quality. Needless to say your girl needs a break.

Everyday for several weeks now he has asked me how he can help. Well, me being the control freak that I am, I have an issue delegating tasks because what if it isn’t done exactly how I want it to be!? Going against my better judgement I did delegate him a task. One SINGLE task…save the dates. I gave him 100% free rein to pick them out and design them how he wants to. I figured this is a relatively simple task (compared to everything else we have to do) with minimal room for error.       

At first, he was really ‘gung-ho’ for the idea. He even ordered one of those sample packs from Shutterfly to see what design he liked in person. I was really impressed with him and about to admit my misconceptions. But…after three weeks…guess who STILL hasn’t ordered the save the dates!?

After a couple weeks of letting my frustration boil, I confronted him in a calm manner. I tried to be funny and laugh about it while inside I’m dying. I gave him a deadline of August 17th. Now, I know he is going to wait until 11:59pm on August 16th to order them just because he knows it drives me crazy.

In the grand scheme of things this really isn’t a huge deal. With that being said, does anyone else feel super annoyed that your significant other can’t handle (what to you) is a simple task, in a timely manner, and exactly how you would!? Do I need to relax? Should I do it myself? Throw something? Go on a strike? Any and all advice is welcome.

If you too struggle with being an OCD planner, I feel you. I commiserate with you and I am a failure freak with you.


6 thoughts on “Order Our Damn Save The Dates

  1. Oh man. I hear ya. I am the living embodiment of the old adage, “If you want something done right, do it yourself.” But I think, in this case, since you gave him a deadline, let him pick the save the dates out on the 16th. If you planned well (and it sounds like you probably did) that would be plenty of time to get them done and out on time. If he misses the deadline, then that’s a different story.

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    1. I’m EXACTLY the same way. I was the kid in school who did the entire group project because I was afraid it wouldn’t be done correctly. And if (when) he misses his deadline…? I’m thinking of not delegating ever again lol

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      1. Well, (Don’t hate me, because I probably wouldn’t like this advice either), IF he misses the deadline, then its most definitely going to be worth a follow up conversation about how important timelines and schedules are to you, but also, on the other hand. What’s the worst that could happen? You have to send them out a couple days later than anticipated? People are still going to get them, and they will still come to your wedding, even though they got the save the dates a little late. 🙂

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      2. The rational side of me knows you are absolutely correct. The OCD/irrational side of me says, “deadline missed…can’t compute” haha. But in the grand scheme of things you are definitely correct. I guess we will have to wait and see 🤷‍♀️

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