Let me preface this post with letting you all in on a big secret…I am a MEGA control freak. I may also have planning OCD. Don’t know what that is, well let me enlighten you. If I have not planned/completed a task right when it is given to me I freak out.
Knowing all this, guess what my fiancé is? NOT a planner. He floats gently in the breeze not letting anything stress him out. He doesn’t get overwhelmed if he is running a little behind and he certainly doesn’t self combust if a task isn’t completed right away. So guess who is planning the majority of our wedding? You guessed it folks, me.
I have booked the venue, photography/videography, DJ, and am very close to finalizing catering after 502830803 emails. I’ve researched, called, texted, emailed, and just about every form of communication possible (besides carrier pigeon) to a bunch of different people to find the best prices/deals without compromising quality. Needless to say your girl needs a break.
Everyday for several weeks now he has asked me how he can help. Well, me being the control freak that I am, I have an issue delegating tasks because what if it isn’t done exactly how I want it to be!? Going against my better judgement I did delegate him a task. One SINGLE task…save the dates. I gave him 100% free rein to pick them out and design them how he wants to. I figured this is a relatively simple task (compared to everything else we have to do) with minimal room for error.
At first, he was really ‘gung-ho’ for the idea. He even ordered one of those sample packs from Shutterfly to see what design he liked in person. I was really impressed with him and about to admit my misconceptions. But…after three weeks…guess who STILL hasn’t ordered the save the dates!?
After a couple weeks of letting my frustration boil, I confronted him in a calm manner. I tried to be funny and laugh about it while inside I’m dying. I gave him a deadline of August 17th. Now, I know he is going to wait until 11:59pm on August 16th to order them just because he knows it drives me crazy.
In the grand scheme of things this really isn’t a huge deal. With that being said, does anyone else feel super annoyed that your significant other can’t handle (what to you) is a simple task, in a timely manner, and exactly how you would!? Do I need to relax? Should I do it myself? Throw something? Go on a strike? Any and all advice is welcome.
If you too struggle with being an OCD planner, I feel you. I commiserate with you and I am a failure freak with you.